Dealing with anger
It’s natural to feel angry and frustrated when you go through a separation. However, when children are involved, dealing with your anger becomes more important than ever.
Anger is a natural reaction to things you’re not happy about or can’t control but it can become a problem when it harms the people you love. This will often depend on how you express your anger.
Dealing with this anger is an incredibly important aspect of dealing with separation. Try not to keep your anger bottled up-it can make you ill. Thinking about what’s making you feel so angry can help you deal with your anger and move on.
When you’re thinking about how to deal with anger, try and focus on what’s really important rather than worrying about every little thing that’s getting you down.
- Put your child’s feelings first.
- Think about what’s best for them.
- Try not to argue in front of your children.
Try to work out if the thing that’s making you angry is happening now, or if it’s to do with something that happened in the past. There’s lots of support around to help you learn how to deal with anger and stress.
There are a large number of organisations out there that can help you deal with your own anger issues. For example, you can get help from your GP or from Charities such as Mind.
If you’re not ready to seek outside help, you could try discussing your feelings with a family member or a trusted friend.
Where can I go next?
The Parent Connection - circle of thoughts feelings and behaviour
An animation brought to you from the Parent Connection which shows how our feelings, thoughts and behaviour are linked and influence one another.
Centre for Separated Families - dealing with anger
Information from the Centre for Separated Families about how to deal with and manage your anger.
Family Lives - How to deal with anger
Practical tips and information about dealing with anger from Family Lives, a national charity providing help and support in all aspects of family life.http://www.sortingoutseparation.org.uk/wp-admin/post.php?post=300&action=edit#